与我为邻

记录片美国2018

主演:弗雷德·罗杰斯,贝蒂·阿伯琳,比尔·克林顿,希拉里·罗德姆·克林顿,阿尔·戈尔,罗伯特·肯尼迪,马友友,大卫·纽厄尔

导演:摩根·内维尔

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更新时间:2024-04-11 04:36

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  弗雷德·罗杰斯以他温和的嗓音和发自内心的智慧,为几代美国儿童提供了一个富有同情心的代理父亲。他相信爱情是生活的基本要素,能够帮助孩子度过困难的处境,仅仅是用手工木偶来表示宽容和接受。罗杰斯是一个被任命的长老会牧师,他直接和公开地向孩子们讲述了他毕生的工作,包括他的长期演出。他站在一个致力于满足儿童特殊需求的运动的最前线,并被认为是一个激进的支持者,他说:“我喜欢你就是你的样子。” 动画序列在罗杰斯先生的邻居的存档镜头和对弗雷德罗杰斯的家人,朋友和同事的采访中穿插。在研究罗杰斯的遗产时,奥斯卡获奖导演摩根·奈维尔(20英尺的明星)为一个真实的人类提供了深思熟虑和美丽的礼物,为这些令人担忧的时代提供了一种非常需要的慰藉。

 长篇影评

 1 ) Simple Love

From the time you were very little, you've had people who have smiled you into smiling, people who have talked you into talking, sung you into singing.

Love you into loving.

No matter where they are, deep down you know they've always wanted what was the best for you.

They've always cared about you beyond measure and have encouraged you to be true to the best within you.

 2 ) 相互帮助使这个世界得以延续

“那些在生活中抗争的人给我留下最深刻的印象”
是啊,现在的电视里充斥着许多暴力,人类最初的单纯和善良变成了时代的奢侈品

影片最后给剧中的人以及剧外的人一分钟的时间想想那些在我们生命中帮助我们成为更好的自己的人有谁?

有人想的是他的妈妈,有人想的是她的保姆,有人想的是弗雷德。

我想的是我的妈妈,从小给我念故事书,在我的爱情受挫时治愈我,在我生病时照顾我,在我抑郁时鼓励我。

当然不止我的妈妈,还有我的朋友,老师,以及给我善意的陌生人。

你呢?

 3 ) 《与我为邻》儿童节目主持人如何用爱影响了一代人

忘记这是否是我今年给的第一个A。也许你不知道本片主角Fred Rogers 是谁,但可以肯定的是,只要你用心看了本片,最后结尾时一定会泪流满面,不是因为悲惨而哭泣,是因为深深的感动。

一开始我也不清楚Fred Rogers 是谁,所以本片最初上映时我都没去看。后来发现好评如潮又去补课,非常庆幸了解了这位优秀儿童节目主持人如此正面积极的人生。为什么我们大部分人并不清楚他是谁?因为我们不是在美国长大的,没有从小看他的节目,特别是如果你还没有孩子可能更不会关心到儿童节目。影院里同来看的大部分是50岁-80岁的人,相信都是被他曾打动、影响过的一代。很多老人都带着轮椅,拄着拐杖,与老伴相互搀扶着来捧场,真是一时间让我以为自己买到了“老年干部专场”的票影片已经上映了快一个月,却依然白天都满场,而且片尾大家都在擦眼泪。第一次感受到一个深入美国人民心中的公众形象所带来的积极影响。

观影过程中,出现了Fred Rogers创作的布偶角色小老虎丹尼尔(Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood)我才恍然大悟,原来他就是目前家喻户晓美国动画角色小老虎丹尼尔(的创作者而制片。我儿子目前就常在电视或书里看到小老虎丹尼尔的角色。

Fred Rogers 早前要作一名牧师,但他非常重视儿童教育,认为对小孩子的正确引导对他们的成长很重要,于是在PBS开创了自己的儿童节目。他通过布偶角色小老虎丹尼尔,以简单易懂的方式给小朋友讲述作人的道理,生活里遇到挫折要怎么处理,要如何看待自己等问题。甚至也会用这个节目让孩子们学会理解成人现实中发生的真实事件,比如911, 总统被刺杀,战争等。他也会通过与黑人一起泡脚来教会小朋友不要种族歧视。他的方式非常温和有耐心,最终成为影响时代人的榜样。

在他之前,我还真不知道有任何成人公众人物对小朋友和家长们有如此大的影响。但他的一些说法也有人不同意。比如他告诉小朋友要认识到自己的与众不同,每个人天生都是独特的,有人欣赏的。这让孩子们有自信,但同时也被人当作是给懒惰找借口。一些家长觉得这样他们的孩子就不努力了。也就是说,Fred Rogers 正面鼓励式的教育,与一些家长贬低攀比鞭策式的教育方式矛盾。但说实话,我就是在贬低式教育下长大的,我不认为这样的方式有利于儿童,反而是多多表扬,比较正面的引导和鼓励,真的可以让孩子有更加积极健康的心态。

当然,每个家长的教育方式都不同,确实很难说对错。但在抛开这些不同看法外,Fred Rogers 处理矛盾和争议的方式也十分值得大家学习,那就是,他总是去想更为正面积极的事,并坚持自己的原则。在他被批评时,他并没有反击,也没有因此就改变自己,而是继续鼓励大家去时常回想对自己有帮助,有恩德的人,并感谢他们的恩惠,这真的会让人从心底里感受到更多的爱,而不是仇恨。

本纪录片最独特的地方是采访了很多他合作过的同事和家人,但谈及的主要是他的事业与为人,而不是挖掘他的隐私。整个影片拍摄手法和剪辑及配乐都十分符合Fred Rogers 本人乐观的态度,很多场景十分打动人心。推荐给作家长或对美国文化历史有兴趣的观众们

另外,汤姆汉克斯也将在一部即将开拍的电影里饰演他,用人物传记片的方式讲述他的人生。汤姆汉克斯之前已经出演过迪士尼先生,声音和外形也确实非常和蔼可亲。

本片烂番茄99%好评度,有望竞争明年奥斯卡最佳纪录片。

 4 ) Mr Rogers大学演说稿摘抄

When I was at Dartmouth in the late 1940s, the tuition, room, and board all added up to $1,100 a year. Nobody owned a home computer, and hardly anyone had a television set. And those who did, there was a choice of three channels. I’m not sure if Jeanne Shaheen was even born yet, but very few people would have guessed that within 50 years, a woman would be governor or New Hampshire. Yes. When I was here, the first word of the alma mater was “Men. Men of Dartmouth give a rouse.”Well, now the first word is "Dear." Some things change for the better.

During my first year here, I lived right over there at 101 Middle Mass. And I had two roommates. I had a professor, over there, who did his best to scare everyone in his class, and he gave me the lowest grade that I ever had in any school anywhere. But I also had an astronomy professor, George Dimitrov, who looked for and found what was best in each of his students. When I look at the night sky, I still think of that extra special, kind man.

Dartmouth is many things to each of us, and I'm grateful to Jim and Susan Wright for all that they have done for this school. And I’m grateful to my old friend, Chick Koop, for all that he has done for all of us. And I congratulate every one of you who is being honored in any way during this Commencement weekend.

Our world hangs like a magnificent jewel in the vastness of space. Every one of us is a part of that jewel. A facet of that jewel. And in the perspective of infinity, our differences are infinitesimal. We are intimately related. May we never even pretend that we are not.

Have you heard my favorite story that came from the Seattle Special Olympics? Well, for the 100-yard dash, there were nine contestants, all of them so-called physically or mentally disabled. All nine of them assembled at the starting line, and at the sound of the gun, they took off. But not long afterward, one little boy stumbled and fell, and hurt his knee and began to cry. The other eight children heard him crying. They slowed down, turned around, and ran back to him. Every one of them ran back to him. One little girl with Down Syndrome bent down and kissed the boy, and said, “This'll make it better.”The little boy got up, and he and the rest of the runners linked their arms together, and joyfully walked to the finish line. They all finished the race at the same time. And when they did, everyone in that stadium stood up, and clapped, and whistled, and cheered for a long, long time. People who were there are still telling this story with great delight. And you know why. Because deep down, we know that what matters in this life is more than winning for ourselves. What really matters is helping others win, too. Even if it means slowing down and changing our course now and then.

Anicius Manlius Severinus Boethius—what a name—was the last of the great Roman philosophers, and the first of the scholastics of the Middle Ages. Fifteen hundred years ago, Boethius wrote this sentence, “O happy race of mortals, if your hearts are ruled as is the universe, by Love.”

I was once invited to sit in on a master class of six young cellists from the Pittsburgh Youth Symphony Orchestra. The master teacher was Yo-Yo Ma. Now, Yo-Yo is the most other-oriented genius I’ve every known. His music comes from a very deep place within his being. And during that master class, Yo-Yo gently led those young cellists into understandings about their instruments, their music, and their selves, which some of them told me later, they’d carry with them forever.

I can still see the face of one young man who had just finished playing a movement of Brahms’Cello Sonata, when Yo-Yo said, “Nobody else can make the sound you make.”Of course, he meant that as a compliment to the young man. Nevertheless, he meant that also for everyone in the class. Nobody else can make the sound you make. Nobody else can choose to make that particular sound in that particular way.

I’m very much interested in choices, and what it is, and who it is, that enable us human beings to make the choices we make all through our lives. What choices lead to ethnic cleansing? What choices lead to healing? What choices lead to the destruction of the environment, the erosion of the Sabbath, suicide bombings, or teenagers shooting teachers. What choices encourage heroism in the midst of chaos?

I have a lot of framed things in my office, which people have given to me through the years. And on my walls are Greek, and Hebrew, and Russian, and Chinese. And beside my chair, is a French sentence from Saint-Exupery’s Little Prince. It reads, “L’essential est invisible pour les yeux.”What is essential is invisible to the eye. Well, what is essential about you? And who are those who have helped you become the person you are? Anyone who has ever graduated from a college, anyone who has ever been able to sustain a good work, has had at least one person, and often many, who have believed in him or her. We just don’t get to be competent human beings without a lot of different investments from others.

I’d like to give you all an invisible gift. A gift of a silent minute to think about those who have helped you become who you are today. Some of them may be here right now. Some may be far away. Some, like my astronomy professor, may even be in Heaven. But wherever they are, if they’ve loved you, and encouraged you, and wanted what was best in life for you, they’re right inside your self. And I feel that you deserve quiet time, on this special occasion, to devote some thought to them. So, let’s just take a minute, in honor of those that have cared about us all along the way. One silent minute.

Whomever you’ve been thinking about, imagine how grateful they must be, that during your silent times, you remember how important they are to you. It’s not the honors and the prizes, and the fancy outsides of life which ultimately nourish our souls. It’s the knowing that we can be trusted. That we never have to fear the truth. That the bedrock of our lives, from which we make our choices, is very good stuff.

There’s a neighborhood song that is meant for the child in each of us, and I’dlike to give you the words of that song right now. “It’s you I like, it’s not the things you wear. It’s not the way you do your hair, but it’s you I like. The way you are right now, the way down deep inside you. Not the things that hide you. Not your caps and gowns, they’re just beside you. But it’s you I like. Every part of you. Your skin, your eyes, your feelings. Whether old or new, I hope that you remember, even when you're feeling blue, that it’s you I like. It’s you, yourself, it’s you. It’s you I like.”

And what that ultimately means, of course, is that you don't ever have to do anything sensational for people to love you. When I say it’s you I like, I’m talking about that part of you that knows that life is far more than anything you can ever see, or hear, or touch. That deep part of you, that allows you to stand for those things, without which humankind cannot survive. Love that conquers hate. Peace that rises triumphant over war. And justice that proves more powerful than greed.

So, in all that you do in all of your life, I wish you the strength and the grace to make those choices which will allow you and your neighbor to become the best of whoever you are. Congratulations to you all.

 5 ) 看到了小的,成为了大的

在此之前,我只认识一个罗杰斯,他叫卡尔·罗杰斯,是一位人本主义心理学家。

这部电影,让我认识了另一个罗杰斯,他叫弗雷德·罗杰斯,是一位几乎进行了一辈子的儿童教育家。

这难道是一种偶然吗?两个罗杰斯都有一种善良的面孔,都有一种对人无条件积极关怀的价值持有。

而弗雷德,关注的群体,是世界上弱小的一个,声音和力量都极其容易被忽视掉的一个。

弗雷德看到了他们,还看重着他们,为了儿童能更好地成长,他几乎奉献了自己的一辈子,甚至连自己的信仰也放弃了,不再进行神学布道,而是一门心思地为儿童建构起一个充满友善的邻居世界,在那里,讲述爱讲述理解讲述支持,也解释死亡解释恐惧解释自我也解释偏见……

我想,儿童的外表是容易迷惑人的,让人们把它们视为可爱的精灵,但我相信弗雷德是聪明的,以他的智慧肯定能逃过这些迷惑,但他还是深深地爱上了这些儿童,为他们奉献为他们创造为他们解释为他们传达,这份热情与执着,可能是由外界引起,但更可能是在内心生发。

有一点,他的认识充满智慧,超出大多数人的理解,即,儿童的世界不应只是滑稽和搞笑,他们也有深层理解世界的能力和需要。

这一点,我觉得的是他的过人之处,不将儿童看成是一个什么都不懂的人,而是给予了充分的理解和尊重。

有了这个认识,就有了之后的行为发生的基础,所以他在把很多善意和正能量的理念传输给孩童们,这件事我觉得真的很伟大!

他承认了小孩子的需要,小孩子也需要理解这个世界,正确的理解这个世界,不是披上红色风衣就是超人的误读误解,而是即使我与他人不一样我也不是一个错误。如此这般,他维护了儿童的内心,像植入了许多正性的信念(我是好的,我是有能力的,我是特别的,我是有价值的……),当它们不断在内心着生,它们会变得坚固可靠,不可摧毁,即使将来长大了,经历风风雨雨,也会展现出强大的生命韧性,因为ta的信念系统能量满满,坚固的不可摧毁。

而如果一个儿童,自小就是许多负性的自我认识(我是个坏孩子,我是个不听话的孩子,我平庸……)长大成人,其实去和ta根深蒂固的信念系统做一番较量的话,是一个比较艰辛的事情,试想这几乎是对一个人的重新塑造,工程量可想而知,而如果再遇见成人的固执与偏见,这个工程的难度又要翻上几番!

但是,现实却是,小孩子的需求似乎被没有被高高在上的庞然大物般的成人所看到,他们看到的是它们的哭闹它们的无理,或者很多时候他们并没有在看它们,这就导致儿童的世界建设一片荒芜,甚至是充满恐慌,因为儿童对这个充满着庞然大物的世界不熟悉,不认识,不理解,他们看到这个东西从眼前消失了,可能就会认为它是死了而不是藏起来了,他们认为母亲的离开是对自己的遗弃……他们以自己的方式和认识试图理解并掌控这个世界,但这些“自以为是”比较危险,需要成人的爱和关怀来安抚情绪,需要成人的解释和描述来更正认识。

所以,弗雷德做了很多儿童需要的事儿,做了很多成人忽略的事儿,所以他成为了一个极富影响力的公众人物。

弯下腰,看到小的孩子,微微笑,成为大的人物。

向弗雷德学习,他对儿童的爱与关注,他的活泼与童心,他的友善和聪慧……

 6 ) True saint

“From the time you were very little, you’ve had people who have smiled you into smiling, people who have talked you into talking, sung you into singing, loved you into loving. Let’s just take some time to think of those extra special people, some may be right here, some may be far away, some may even be in heaven, no matter where they are, deep down you know, they’ve always wanted what was best for you, they’ve always cared about you beyond measure and have encouraged you to be true to the best within you.”

“You know, I think everybody longs to be loved, and longs to know he or she is lovable, and consequently, the greatest thing that we can do is to help somebody know that they’re loved and capable of loving.”

“You have to make each day a special day, by just being yourself, there’s nobody else in the whole world who’s exactly like you, and people can like you as exactly as you are, you are special.” By Fred Rogers

 短评

Fred Rogers有意思 但片子不行 就是个流水介绍

7分钟前
  • 翠西 。o 0 O
  • 还行

已经听过好多 Mister Rogers 的感人故事,因此反而对他创作这套节目背后的艰辛和质疑感触更深。培养儿童成为消费者,不教他们如何掌控情感,还有刻意诋毁他人,这些行为在半个世纪过后仍旧屡见不鲜。这部纪录片让我知道:Mister Rogers 其实一直都很悲观很愤怒,但他和我们都太不一样了。(另,某短评里说他是“用宗教的思想来教育孩子”,会这么说估计是从来没看过他的节目。Mister Rogers 从不在节目里布道,从不给孩子灌输任何和宗教/政治有关的思想,而是一直在温柔地教导他们该借助哪些工具来思考,如何意识到人与身俱来的内在价值。这是哲学,不是宗教。)

11分钟前
  • Jin
  • 推荐

看完不禁感叹good Christian可以到达的境界。用歌声传递与自己握手言和的教诲,温润如玉的君子、润物细无声。@Manor

13分钟前
  • 灼悦
  • 力荐

人是真好人,片子拍的太一般了…

16分钟前
  • Amino
  • 还行

这种就是现实中的完美好人吧!温润如玉的君子。好人其实到了年纪大的时候是很容易判断的,就是老年的时候看起来比年轻时还耐看,还周正,他就是。我觉得他是带有使命的,尤其是年轻时自己选择做电视节目而暂停了在神学院的学习,这种选择的作出,就已经表明他不是一般人了。

19分钟前
  • Sabrina
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3.5 虽然全程哭崩,但不得不说有点浪费绝对五星的人物题材。结构不够清晰、流于泛泛而谈,引用政治话语上非常民主党派。可惜了。

23分钟前
  • 徐若风
  • 还行

在电影院里止不住地擦眼泪,但不敢放声大哭,生怕揭露了自己悲伤的童年似的。

25分钟前
  • 简单=落小鱼
  • 力荐

我真的不知道他是谁但我真的快哭死了

29分钟前
  • Doradora31
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公共电视史上最耀眼的那颗光芒,也是倾注了最多心力的人。Fred几十年如一日将自己藏有无限胸襟的“邻里”打开,给孩子和观众们提供一个避风港,在这里知道自己最特别,去了解死亡和爱,去消解误会和歧视。每个人都会因为曾经拥有这个“代理父亲”而感到幸运,也同样会继承这份遗产和精神传递给以后的人。即使是飞速改变的世事对他太残酷,却永远以不紧不慢的声音去告慰世界---这部纪录片让我更加相信电视特有的力量,也对所热爱的事物更加的坚定。

31分钟前
  • 基瑞尔
  • 力荐

眼眶湿润了好几次,这还是在电影院,要是在家里,估计眼睛可以哭肿,毕竟trailer我看一次哭一次,不是伤心地哭,就是觉得特别感人特别暖心,感动的泪水

33分钟前
  • 葱花蛋挞
  • 力荐

哭懵了...周围来看的都是老头老太,看到后面全是抽鼻子的声音。感谢Mr.Rogers在我生命中出现 我永远记得第一次看节目的那个晚上,然后想象着如果我是看着你节目长大的话 现在会是什么样呢。之前不知道马友友也上过这节目,他的采访片段还特别搞笑hh 还以为Michael Keaton会有采访结果没有【温柔但激进,小老虎daniel太令人心碎

38分钟前
  • cløud 109
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很感人,传达的信息很有力。我觉得宗教(以及各种标签)对人的定义真是太有限了,最后一段非常好。

40分钟前
  • 拜金沃斯学者
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我非常能理解Mr. Rogers,Rogers关心的人本身,他告诉观众“你是特别的”,其实不是普罗大众意义上的特别,也绝非理所应当的不劳而获,而是说人应该享有被爱的权利以及发展出爱人的能力(这也是决定一个人一生幸福的关键所在)。尽管他有些理想主义的色彩,但他却把这种理想主义付诸于行动,也确实温暖了无数人。

45分钟前
  • SELVEN
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我们被温柔关怀,被真心宽恕过吗?

46分钟前
  • 哪吒男
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除了作为枪支消费支持者的宣传,其他的观点,关于对待儿童、关于如何面对他人对自己的质疑、关于对待同性恋对待黑人的态度,都非常的朴实善良,毫无黑点。足够真实吗?起码在全程呈现的“真善美”这一面,他做的够好。采访部分我觉得差了些。

49分钟前
  • LoudCrazyHeart
  • 还行

能让我这个压根不知道罗杰斯为何人的人看得抹眼泪

53分钟前
  • eva and burton
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整场电影下来不停的流泪 这样美好的Mr. Rogers 又智慧又柔软的心 在这个有点blue的周五被治愈了

54分钟前
  • Beatise
  • 力荐

周六下午场的纪录片,满座,我坐最后一排,前后左右的人包括我自己,一直在拭泪。一个这么温暖的,时刻在爱的人。动画部分也做得非常好,把Mr. Rogers心里那个insecure inner kid表现得很动人,也让人物更有血有肉。143<3

57分钟前
  • Anig吉
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即使没有看过他的节目 也有种心被天使触碰的感觉 谢谢你 Mr Rogers

1小时前
  • L‘Heure Bleue
  • 力荐

“这世界上最邪恶的人,就是那些想尽办法让你自卑的人。”

1小时前
  • Zemaro
  • 力荐

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